"We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them." – Kahlil Gibran
I have circumstantially found myself compelled to piece together a brief moment, which has been formulating in my heart over the past few years.
There are so many people we meet from all walks of life. Amongst the potpourri blend of character, personality, love languages, views—there are so many intricate possibilities with additives that formulate who we are. The irony is that, yet and still, each of us is made so perfect amongst all of our imperfections. Because of this erroneous simplicity, there is no person made neither the same as you nor the same as I.
I am by no means an impetuous conversationalist. I prefer to chew on my words before I spout them about. I do this because in a heart-wrenching situation…we can quickly find ourselves reacting to the feelings in our heart, rather than the cement facts of life. Someone whom has been a somewhat fatherly figure in my life, once told me, “disappointments come when expectations aren’t met”. Holding onto this has brought me through the toughest of times, enabling me the ability to let go of baggage from my childhood, which was piled high.
There are good things and bad things, which we take from every situation, friendship, relationship, bond…all encompassed in the one life for one lifetime which we have been granted the opportunity to live to the fullest. I must highlight the emblem importance of having two complete people before finding each other. In most relationships, we find the major complications in the underlying insecurities and undeltwith excess baggage from our past. Why? Because we choose to fill the holes with the significant other in our lives as a band-aid. The problem remains true that this significant other can’t always or isn’t always willing to meet those needs. Whether it’s because they can’t relate, they don’t have the energies to do so, or they get burnt out. Sometimes the answer we hate most…is when there is no answer to many of the “whys” of life. But that is why we take initiative and iron out the questionable items to which life will bargain in our direction.
I love the opportunities I’ve been granted to love on those around me through the quality time I choose to make for them. We must never lose sight of what we cherish in life. The things we hold closest to us are different from person to person. Whether it be tangible gifts, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, or a mixture of these things… if we identify who we are and stick to our guns…no change of tides in life can brings us to rock bottom.
There is invaluable significance behind the ability to show someone how to love you, which surfaces only after familiarity and comfort settles in with acquired knowledge— involving the “how-to” of loving oneself. This quality of life can’t be stressed enough. I have watched countless relationships fail with a variation apple that doesn’t fall far from this concept tree—falling in love with potential is disastrous. Facing reality, sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same. An application to the many proposals to which life will draft.
Urgency envelopes the need to love someone enough to respectfully consider, that if love can’t be granted in the capacity to which it is deserved, then letting go and providing the opportunity to find someone else—is a necessary.